~~A Testimony for a Friend~~

Funny how we complain and think about things and life…

Most people have many entanglements in life. They are busy with family, jobs, school—these are our responsibilities, and they are also a source of merits. Besides these duties, the most important thing we can do is to rediscover ourselves and to know truly who is the one acting and speaking. We learned many things in school, which most people consider to be wisdom.

Why are we in this world? What is the true meaning of life? Many wealthy people neither have an understanding of religion nor practice it. Even though they have many possessions, they feel that when they eventually die, they cannot take a single cent with them so why not eat, drink, and be merry now—enjoy life thoroughly and imprudently. From a worldly perspective, it seems to be a life of leisure, completely carefree.

I have a loving friend who has it all except for the fact that she’s broken hearted. She had everything planned accordingly and one day when dreams were becoming reality she lost the person she would want to share everything with. Well of course that’s another story of unfaithfulness that I will have to keep to myself for my friends privacy too.

Considering the fact that she has her family who are all healthy and wealthy plus US… her friends, she still wants the past. Is it really true love or martyrdom?

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

Breakups are tough. They aren't all that tough when little is invested. But when there have been any seeds of hope or kindness sown into a relationship.. to see it grow for a time and then watch it pass away, it's tough. I say this in the aftermath of a recent breakup of my own. But after all the final things have been said, after some time has passed and the emotions have settled down.. There comes a decision to do one of two things. The choice is one that is very difficult to discern at first and sometimes very hard to look at. But it comes with its own reward. What I refer to is simply honesty.

Yes I know it is difficult to move on but how will we move on if we can’t and don’t stop thinking about the past and the past.

She really is doing well at work and everything is falling in place as to what she had planned but still leaving her with the question “Yes I have everything but what am I going to do with all that I have if I don’t have him, if he’s not here?” Hmm… Yes, she may have everything-material things, but it’s not making her happy. I fell for that however there’s this saying that “We can’t have everything.”

According to Mike Murdock’s book, “The Law of Recognition”

• Everything you need is already in your life. Merely awaiting your recognition of it.
• Anything unrecognized remains uncelebrated by you.
• Anything you refuse to celebrate eventually exits in your life. A gift, a miracle, or a Person.

Contentment really has nothing to do with circumstances, but it has everything to do with one's attitude.

To be content is to find satisfaction within your limitation or accepting things as they are. I find that though I am not happy with any debt I carry or the amount of savings I have, I am content. I accept that fact that this is where I am in life and now I must take the small steps to make the changes necessary so that my limitation will be expanded.

True, I have found that if I despise myself or blame someone else I lose the energy to make the necessary changes for expanding my limitation. Why? Because my energy is emotional. Though emotions are what can start a change in attitude or in habit, they are not what can keep the flow of progress’ that takes a change in mindset, after the emotions have faded.

Love, by definition, requires that we make ourselves vulnerable. Loving someone who loves us in return is the only thing I consider beautiful in this strange world of ours. But as it is said, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." True, we should choose our adventures with caution, but risk will always be a factor. Sometimes we get hurt or deceived, but if in the end we find someone who is of a same giving heart and takes joy in loving us as we do them... then the preservation of a kind heart will be its own reward.

Well, I may have you guys confused with everything in this post but this is just to let my loving friend know that “Everything happens for a reason”- there maybe a better man out there for her… When and how!?... “There is a time, place and reason for everything”- it may not be too soon but who knows… all we have to do is to wait patiently and accept the fact that we are blessed with what we have at this very moment.

“The most interesting thing about heart transplants is that one completely loses his own heart and be replaced with someone else’s yet still has the feelings for the same person he loves. This proves that love works in the mind of people but not in their hearts… bottom line, love is a state of mind. You’ll learn how to forget only if u try doing so…”
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