~~Pucca Baby~~

me baby look alike :P

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

~~Chicken, Garlic, and Sundried Tomato Pasta~~

INGREDIENTS

• 1 (16 ounce) package farfalle pasta
• 1/2 cup butter
• 3 cloves garlic, minced
• 1 (10.75 ounce) can condensed cream of chicken soup
• 1/2 cup milk
• 1 tablespoon dried parsley
• 1/2 teaspoon salt
• 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper
• 3 cooked skinless, boneless chicken breast halves, cut into bite-size pieces
• 1/3 cup sun-dried tomatoes, rehydrated in water
• 2 tablespoons grated Romano cheese

DIRECTIONS

1. In a large pot with boiling salted water cook farfalle pasta until al dente. Drain.
2. Meanwhile, melt butter in a large saucepan. Add garlic cloves and cook until garlic browns. Add the cream of chicken soup and milk, stirring until smooth. Stir in the dried parsley, salt, and ground fresh pepper. Let simmer for 2 to 3 minutes. Add bite size chicken pieces and hydrated sun dried tomatoes. Simmer for 6 to 8 minutes. Mix in grated Romano cheese.
3. Toss cooked and drained pasta with chicken sauce. Serve warm.

~~True Values~~

"Love is like a rhino, short-sighted and hasty. If it does not have a way it would make one."

In today's fast moving world with all the many distractions - many of us forget easily their true values - waste time on wrong paths of life and suddenly life is over before it really started.

Take some time to think and feel what really matters to you - write down the first several points that appear truly of value to you in your life. Is it to have ...

1. a family - at home - being there for you, sharing all spare time with you ?
2. having a partner in life to hug you, to love you, to accept your love ?
3. friends that are there for you whenever you fall in life, when ever you need company or someone to talk to or help ?
4. job or money ?
5. career and recognition from other as a substitute of true love in our own relationship ?
6. freedom ? freedom to travel, freedom of doing business, freedom to select your job, education and home town ?
7. ... or do you have other values in your life ? If yes - which ones ?

Find the true eternal values of your life

The only efficient and most powerful way to actually support a true value is by:

• Living it as a living example without imposing it on anyone else
• Admitting such inner values to the outside world, to your family members, friends, colleagues at work or customers
• Improving your own way of living and realizing these - your very own - values of life
• Investing in the improvements, maintenance, free distribution and free peaceful and loving expansion of your values among all those who are interested in or want to follow your own living example as a result of seeing you more happy in your family and with your partner, more happy in business or job, more successful in all you do and of course more healthy than the average human being.

If your true values of life are in real harmony with your innermost divine being, your soul and heart, then of course you will be more happy than others, more successful than others and far more healthy - inner and outer health - than others. True spiritual values practiced in full harmony with God and hence with your own innermost spiritual being always result in excellent well being and happiness in all situations of your eternal life.

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Sunday, February 25, 2007

~~How Do You Communicate?~~

You Communicate With Your Ears

You love conversations, both as a listener and a talker. What people say is important to you, and you're often most affected by words, not actions. You love to hear complements from others. And when you're upset, you often talk to yourself. Music is very important to you. It's difficult to find you without your iPod.

How Do You Communicate?

~~8 Simple Rules to Attract a Man~~

By Debbie Magids, Ph.D.

So men are from Mars. It doesn’t mean you can’t figure out how to attract them! Really, the answer is just a couple of planets away – Venus, to be exact.

What makes a man feel attracted to a woman is the same as what makes a woman feel attracted to a man: how you feel in his presence. If he makes you feel good, you’ll be attracted, at least to some degree. If he makes you feel bad, well, no second date!

There are plenty of people out there – men and women – who can make a guy feel lousy. In order to feel good about themselves, men need to feel eight simple things:

• Needed
• Desired
• Challenged
• Funny
• Smart
• Interesting
• Important
• Powerful

If you want a particular man (or just want to lift someone’s spirit), you can use these eight simple rules to help attract a man:

NEEDED: Men need to feel needed. It gives them a sense of purpose in the relationship. Sometimes, when women act as if they don’t need a man, they end up alone and lonely. Of course, this is not to say that you shouldn’t be a strong, assertive woman. It means you should show your vulnerabilities, too. It’ll make him feel less intimidated because he feels vulnerable too, despite the way he may act.
Rule #1: Show your vulnerabilities to attract a man.

DESIRED: Men need to feel desired as much as you do. Many women make the mistake of playing hard to get. Yes, men need a challenge, but they also need their egos stroked. They have the same insecurities as women do, but usually don’t have a group of empathetic ears to rely on after a date. They need to feel that they are attractive to you – that you think they are sexy, handsome, cute, etc.
Rule #2: Compliment his looks, and you’ll look better to him.

CHALLENGED: Men are pursuers – it’s in their genes. Therefore, in order to attract one, you must have a strong sense of yourself: The biggest turnoff for a man is a woman who is insecure and needs constant reassurance from him. In addition, a little mystery is enticing to a man. Don’t give it all up too soon. Let him want to learn more and more about you.
Rule #3: Walk into a room like you own it, keep a few secrets to yourself, and be flirtatious to catch a man’s attention.

FUNNY, SMART, INTERESTING: Men gain a large part of their sense of self from being deemed to exhibit these three characteristics. Ask any man and he will likely tell you that he feels wonderful when the woman he’s interested in laughs at his jokes.
Rules #4, #5, and #6: Listen attentively, nod frequently, compliment him on how smart he is, and laugh at his jokes!

IMPORTANT AND POWERFUL: Men need to feel as if they are the most important person in your life. Moreover, there is virtually nothing more demeaning to a man than to be scolded in public, told what to do, or to not be the center of your world when you are together. Of course, this isn’t to say you have to sit pretty and ignore his bantering – just pick a private place to address personal issues, even if it means waiting, and speak respectfully, which you should expect in return.
Rules #7 and #8: When you are together, don’t look around at other men, compliment another man on his looks, or talk about other men.

Got this article from the bellsouth homepage at work... :P

~~Pursuit of Happyness~~

Loosely based on the real-life tale of how Chris Gardner tried to make it in the dog-eat-dog world of stock broker, The Pursuit of Happyness is a heartbreaking, yet ultimately rewarding tale of pursuing one's dreams to be someone, even when one's life seems to be crumbling all around.

“Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness”

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness” is a phrase in the United States Declaration of Independence. They are our “inalienable rights” and what we as Americans hold to. Notice that happiness is not guaranteed in this statement. The world, the government, society as a whole does not owe any of us a great life. But we have every opportunity to pursue that happiness with every fiber of our being. Real life stock broker Chris Gardner did that very thing in 1981. His story is told in the new movie aptly titled, “The Pursuit of Happyness.”

First up, that’s not a typo. It’s supposed to be spelled like that.

check out this san francisco gate article about Chris Gardner's life and links to film what the bleep do we know

Yesterday, a friend and I ventured out to buy a DVD copy of Will Smith’s latest biopic “the pursuit of happyness” based on a time in the life of Chris Gardner of garder rich, llc. the film follows the life of Chris Gardner for 7-9 months as he struggles as an office-to-office salesman and (eventually) single father to becoming a stockbroker. the heartiest parts of the story are seeing Gardner's unyielding, yet difficult commitment to staying with his son and being a good parent despite potentially crushing circumstances. i expected the film to tap into my weepy, emotional side much more than it did. here are the possible reasons why i was not moved to gut wrenching tears throughout the film:

1. the underlying theme of the film is that what we can be, do , and accomplish needs not be dicatated by our present circumstances, where we were born or descended, or other past experiences beyond our control. i thought the fact that we learn very little about chris gardner’s past was a deliberate testament to this assertion…which is just fine with me. but, i would have liked to have more of a context for chris gardner’s life and eccentricities.
2. this lack of a presented past left me with many ‘why?’s. like, “why didn’t/ wasn’t chris able to go to college?” “why didn’t chris or his wife/girlfriend have any family?” “why didn’t chris appear to know anyone besides the guy who owed him $14?” i suppose the literature lover in me thinks having answers to questions like these would have made chris a rounder character.
3. thandie newton played the gardner’s wife/girlfriend. i hate to be so blunt, but thandie newton did a very poor job of portraying the immensely frustrated and economically poor laundry worker. though i don’t think she was meant to come off as a drug abuser, all of the neck rolling, cigrarette-smoking, and poorly contextualized emasculating (read: OVERACTING!) made her come off like a pedestrian crackhead.
4. i thought the film was uniquely illustrative of the possible mechanations of capitalism on the life of the working class. the reality is, that the modern world is not one in which people are valued because of their character or abilities. no, our worth is measured in how much we can cause to be produced and/or consumed within an hour. this was just as true about chris gardner’s life when he was pushing bone density scanners door-to-door as when he was pushing retirement plans for dean witter. instead of feeling glad when chris was chosen for the job after the internship, i had a small, but deep disappointed that even in the comfort of the fairy tale that is cinema, i was being coerced into appreciating and rooting for the devaluation of human life and potential.

But what feels most striking about this film is not its truth or accuracy, at least not in a technical sense. Rather, it's that the film does not seek blame or create unfounded obstacles for the character - particularly racial ones - instead enabling Chris' triumph as a personal one unencumbered by social or political context. Ultimately, this isn't the story of a black man learning how to succeed in a white world, or a poor person becoming rich, but the achievement of one man who looked past the litany of obstacles to which he could have easily surrendered. The fact that no one in the film looks down on him because of his sometimes unkempt appearance, much less the color of his skin, is a testament to the unfiltered purity of the real Gardner's story, and what makes the movie accessible to all audiences.

~~Pweety Dogs~~

~~How to Know The Right Age to Get Married~~

Earlier my friend and I were talking about an apparent love quarrel between her and the hubby. Well twas a simple issue that lead to complications when we started talking about it… it brought about things from the past and future… must have… should have… could have and what ifs!?... With all that… one question was raised as to “when is the right time to get married?”… Is it at a certain age like 24 or 28? Or when the right person comes? Like how can we know and tell that we are with the right person and that it’s the right time? Not that we are desperate and all… well I’ve done some research and according to an article I’ve read:

There isn't really an actual age that’s best to get married at. Everyone and every relationship are different and special.

But, maybe this can help you finalize your decision.

Steps

1. Make sure he/she is the one. You should know that through the worst, your mate will be there for you, and that you can grow together. If there is a lack of trust, reconsider
2. Think about school, and if you’re getting married will affect your education. It may be a smarter decision to finish school first. The truth is, as a new family you will need money in order to survive. Education is the tool to achieve that money and healthy lifestyle
3. Think about where you will go, or where your mate will go if you get married. Are you ready to move in with him or her?
4. Do a cost-benefit analysis of the situation. Will waiting to get married be more financially savvy? Will getting married now help taxes?
5. Make it a point to discuss financial issues with your partner. It is important for a sold union to know what to expect from the other.
6. How do you feel about your partner's family? Will they be very involved in your joint lives? How does your family feel about your partner? Consider how much you value the opinions of your family and assess the situation.
7. Can you talk to your partner about private issues easily? If not, then you might not be at the right stage in your life and/or your relationship.

Tips

• People often make the mistake of marrying at a young age, before they get through college and organize their money plans.
• Be sure to look at every angle of the situation before you decide. This is a life changing decision; it is important that you and your partner have similar and hopefully joint goals for the future.
• Think about what you want for yourself in the future and if your mate genuinely shares that with you.
• Pre-marital counseling is a really good idea.
• Remember: Marriage is not 'a walk in the park.' It takes serious work and effort from both partners. The honeymoon does not last forever!

Warnings

• Be sure you're getting married for the right reasons.
• NEVER rush into marriage. If you love each other, and the time is not yet right, wait.

~~What color is Your Brain?~~

My Brain is Orange

Of all the brain types, yours is the quickest. You are usually thinking a mile a minute, and you could be thinking about anything at all. Your thoughts are often scattered and random - but they're also a lot of fun! You tend to spend a lot of time thinking about esoteric subjects, the meaning of life, and pop culture.

What Color Is Your Brain?

~~Monday Recipe~~

Pasta with Roasted Vegetables

Ingredients:
8 oz. Rigatoni, Mostaccioli, or other medium pasta shape, uncooked
1 pound fresh mixed vegetables, such as:

• carrots
• squash
• turnips
• green beans
• red onions
• snow peas
• asparagus
• zucchini
• leeks
• fennel
• red or green bell peppers
• mushrooms

Salt and pepper to taste
2 tsp. balsamic vinegar
2 tbsp. vegetable or olive oil
2 tbsp. grated Parmesan cheese

Directions:
Preheat oven to 500: F.
Prepare pasta according to package directions. While pasta is cooking, slice or cut vegetables and place in a shallow baking pan, arranged in a single layer. Season with salt, pepper and Italian seasoning, and brush lightly with oil. Roast in a 500: F oven for about 10 minutes or until vegetables caramelize and brown, leaving any juice in the baking sheet. Drain and set juices aside. Chop vegetables into 1-inch pieces.
When pasta is done, drain well. Toss cooked pasta with vegetable juice, vegetables, vinegar, chicken broth and Parmesan cheese. Serve immediately.

Each Serving Provides:

514 Calories

16.5 g Protein

89.6 g Carbohydrates

9.9 g Fat

2.6 mg Cholesterol

67.4 mg Sodium

Calories from Fat 17%

By had a different version... twas simpler but the taste was good... added tuna and aubergine... :P
Luved it!!! Try It!!!

By's version... :P

~~Kung Hei Fat Choi~~

The Year of the Pig

The twelfth animal that arrived was
the meticulous and resigned Pig.

1923, 1935, 1947, 1959, 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007

Lucky Numbers: 1, 3, 4, 5, 8, 16, 18, 34, 41, 48
Equivalent Western Sign: Scorpio
Element WATER
Color BLACK
Yin/Yang YIN
Direction NORTH-NORTH-WEST

Compatible with : Rooster, Ram
Less Compatible with : Pig, Rabbit, Horse, Ox, Rat, Tiger, Dog, Dragon
Least Compatible with : Snake, Monkey

Positive: The Boar can be sensible, sensual and sensitive, sweetly naive, caring, self-sacrificing, erudite, talented, open-handed, candid, outgoing, amusing, charitable, obliging, graciously hospitable and virtuous.
Negative: The Boar can also be hot-tempered, pessimistic, outrageously epicurean, earthy to a fault, sardonic, snobbish, snide, authoritarian, competitive, know-it-all, stingy, victimized and sometimes downright criminally mad at the world.

I've always been fascinated with the culture and traditions of the Chinese; my late grandfather is Chinese which makes me half Chinese. The Chinese has one of the richest and colorful traditions in history. One of our much anticipated celebrations is the Chinese New Year.

When Is It Celebrated?

Spring festival, or what is more known as the Chinese New Year, is considered one of the most important events in China. The celebration is based on the lunar calendar, so that the first day of the lunar year marks the Chinese New Year. Thus, the event falls between late January to early February. The celebration begins on the eve of the lunar New Year and continues on until the fifth day of the lunar calendar's first month. Next will come the lantern festival.

How Is It Celebrated?

Generally, we prepare for this holiday by making sure everything in our life is in order, or at least under control.

By this I mean the house should be clean, rifts or problems should be resolved, wear clean or new clothes, etc. At midnight there are fireworks and firecrackers to greet the coming of the New Year. The belief behind this is that the noise created by the firecrackers will drive away evil spirits.

What's In the Menu?

After the festivities, the family will sit down to a feast. A sticky rice pudding called nian gao (or "tikoy" in my native tongue) as well as dumplings is usually present in these feasts. Nian gao is also given to family and friends, the belief behind this is that the stickiness of the nian gao will hold or bond the family together. Also, because of its' round shape and sweet taste, it is said to bring good fortune and sweetness to one's life. In my home, we usually cut the nian gao into lengthwise pieces, roll it into beaten eggs and fried. It's delicious…

The tikoy is made up of ground glutinous rice flour, wheat starch, lard, water, and sugar. The type of the latter will determine the color of the pudding. So you have a choice of brown or white tikoy. I don't have the patience yet of making this which involves steaming for 2 hours. Why slave away when you can conveniently buy one from your Chinese grocers.

There is only one way I know, sorry, like to eat it - dipped in egg and fried lightly. I've seen it in some savoury dishes but it didn't quite appeal to me.

• As you can see above the tikoy had been sliced about 1/2 - 1/4 inch thick. You may slice it further to make it smaller. If necessary, chill the tikoy first in the fridge to make it firmer and not so sticky, thus, easier to slice and handle.
• Beat an egg in a bowl. Dip the sliced tikoy pieces in the beaten egg.
• Fry on low to medium heat in a pan (preferably non-stick) with a little oil for a few minutes. Turn over to the other side. Dish up and serve.

When warm, the tikoy is quite sticky so be careful when you eat it especially if you have artificial dentures. LOL ;) This is very nice as a snack with some Oolong or Chrysanthemum tea. Kung Hei Fat Choi !

~~My Famous Pinup~~

You are Marilyn Monroe

A classic tortured beauty You're the dream girl of many men Yet they never seem to treat you right

What Famous Pinup Are You?

~~A-Z Meme~~

I've been tagged by happy hearts so here goes!

Accent: Neutral I suppose… I admire a friend who has these scotish (slight) accent-makes me want to mimic her more than I consciously realize.
Booze: I don't drink much. LOL
Chore I hate: Laundry… definitely not for me. But I do hand wash at times
Dogs/Cats: Dogs and cats… luv ‘em…
Essential Electronics: Computer and microwave…
Favorite Perfume: Clinique Happy and Cool Waters by Davidoff
Gold/Silver: Only silver.
Hometown: Baguio

Insomnia: Yes.
Job title: PS
Kids: None,
Living Arrangement: Apartment – my own

Most Admired Trait: um… eyes I guess… dunno.
Number of sexual partners: Huh!?

Overnight hospital stays: mmm…
Phobias: Dead people… LOL!
Quote: At the moment an Einstein quote seems to fit my situation pretty well.

"If we knew what it was we were doing it wouldn't be called research"

Religion: Uhmm…
Siblings: One elder sister, 32 geeesse
Time I usually wake up: These days around 6am.
Unusual Talent: That’s for me to keep…
Vegetable I refuse to eat: Hmm, none that I can think of.
Worst habit: I'm pretty damn stubborn.
X-rays: Tons.
Yummy food I make: My favourite at the moment is sheperds pie
Zodiac Sign: Scorpio, Individuals born under this sign are thought to have a complex, analytical, keenly perceptive, inquisitive, focused, determined, hypnotic, and self-contained character, but one which is also prone to extremity, jealousy, secretiveness, possessiveness, stubbornness, cruelty and cunning.

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What we had for dinner (feb. 15)... nice eh!?

Classic Ceasar Salad with Iced Tea

Paella Marinera with Red Wine

~~A Testimony for a Friend~~

Funny how we complain and think about things and life…

Most people have many entanglements in life. They are busy with family, jobs, school—these are our responsibilities, and they are also a source of merits. Besides these duties, the most important thing we can do is to rediscover ourselves and to know truly who is the one acting and speaking. We learned many things in school, which most people consider to be wisdom.

Why are we in this world? What is the true meaning of life? Many wealthy people neither have an understanding of religion nor practice it. Even though they have many possessions, they feel that when they eventually die, they cannot take a single cent with them so why not eat, drink, and be merry now—enjoy life thoroughly and imprudently. From a worldly perspective, it seems to be a life of leisure, completely carefree.

I have a loving friend who has it all except for the fact that she’s broken hearted. She had everything planned accordingly and one day when dreams were becoming reality she lost the person she would want to share everything with. Well of course that’s another story of unfaithfulness that I will have to keep to myself for my friends privacy too.

Considering the fact that she has her family who are all healthy and wealthy plus US… her friends, she still wants the past. Is it really true love or martyrdom?

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action - true love.

Breakups are tough. They aren't all that tough when little is invested. But when there have been any seeds of hope or kindness sown into a relationship.. to see it grow for a time and then watch it pass away, it's tough. I say this in the aftermath of a recent breakup of my own. But after all the final things have been said, after some time has passed and the emotions have settled down.. There comes a decision to do one of two things. The choice is one that is very difficult to discern at first and sometimes very hard to look at. But it comes with its own reward. What I refer to is simply honesty.

Yes I know it is difficult to move on but how will we move on if we can’t and don’t stop thinking about the past and the past.

She really is doing well at work and everything is falling in place as to what she had planned but still leaving her with the question “Yes I have everything but what am I going to do with all that I have if I don’t have him, if he’s not here?” Hmm… Yes, she may have everything-material things, but it’s not making her happy. I fell for that however there’s this saying that “We can’t have everything.”

According to Mike Murdock’s book, “The Law of Recognition”

• Everything you need is already in your life. Merely awaiting your recognition of it.
• Anything unrecognized remains uncelebrated by you.
• Anything you refuse to celebrate eventually exits in your life. A gift, a miracle, or a Person.

Contentment really has nothing to do with circumstances, but it has everything to do with one's attitude.

To be content is to find satisfaction within your limitation or accepting things as they are. I find that though I am not happy with any debt I carry or the amount of savings I have, I am content. I accept that fact that this is where I am in life and now I must take the small steps to make the changes necessary so that my limitation will be expanded.

True, I have found that if I despise myself or blame someone else I lose the energy to make the necessary changes for expanding my limitation. Why? Because my energy is emotional. Though emotions are what can start a change in attitude or in habit, they are not what can keep the flow of progress’ that takes a change in mindset, after the emotions have faded.

Love, by definition, requires that we make ourselves vulnerable. Loving someone who loves us in return is the only thing I consider beautiful in this strange world of ours. But as it is said, "Nothing ventured, nothing gained." True, we should choose our adventures with caution, but risk will always be a factor. Sometimes we get hurt or deceived, but if in the end we find someone who is of a same giving heart and takes joy in loving us as we do them... then the preservation of a kind heart will be its own reward.

Well, I may have you guys confused with everything in this post but this is just to let my loving friend know that “Everything happens for a reason”- there maybe a better man out there for her… When and how!?... “There is a time, place and reason for everything”- it may not be too soon but who knows… all we have to do is to wait patiently and accept the fact that we are blessed with what we have at this very moment.

“The most interesting thing about heart transplants is that one completely loses his own heart and be replaced with someone else’s yet still has the feelings for the same person he loves. This proves that love works in the mind of people but not in their hearts… bottom line, love is a state of mind. You’ll learn how to forget only if u try doing so…”
dr. burk greys anatomy

~~Happy Valentines~~

What is Valentine's Day?

Valentine's Day is a romantic day observed on February 14th. People send greeting cards called valentines to their loved ones. Many valentines have romantic verses, and others have humorous pictures and sayings. The most common saying is, "Be my Valentine."

Valentine decorations and cards can go on store shelves as early as the day after Christmas. Schools decorate their classrooms with paper hearts and streamers just for this occasion. The most common gifts to give on Valentine's Day are candy and flowers.

How did Valentine's Day begin?

The holiday of Valentine's Day probably came from the ancient Roman feast called "Lupercalia." In the early days of Rome, dangerous wolves lived in the forest nearby. The Romans called upon one of their gods, Lupercus, to keep the wolves away. A festival held in honor of Lupercus was celebrated February 15th. The festival was celebrated as a spring festival. Their calender was different at that time, with February falling in early springtime.

One of the customs of Lupercalia for young people was called "name-drawing." On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia, the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and put in a jar. Each young man drew a piece of paper with a name on it. The girl whose name was chosen would be his sweetheart for the year.

Legend says that the holiday became Valentine's Day after a priest named Valentine. Valentine was a priest in Rome at the time when Christianity was a new religion. The Emperor at that time was Claudius II. He ordered the Roman soldiers NOT to marry or become engaged. Claudius believed that as married men, his soldiers would want to stay home with their families rather than fight his wars. Valentine disobeyed the Emperor's order and secretly married the young couples. He was eventually arrested, imprisoned, and executed.

Valentine was beheaded on February 14th, the eve of the Roman holiday Lupercalia. After his death, Valentine was named a saint. As Rome became more Christian, the priests moved the spring holiday from the 15th of February to the 14th - Valentine's Day. Now the holiday honored Saint Valentine instead of Lupercus.

Valentine's Day
Is a wonderful way
To make "I love you"
Easy to say.

~~My Dating Persona~~

Read My Result
Take the Test

The Sonnet
Deliberate Gentle Love Dreamer (DGLDf)

Romantic, hopeful, and composed. You are the Sonnet. Get it? Composed?

Sonnets want Love and have high ideals about it. They're conscientious people, caring & careful. You yourself have deep convictions, and you devote a lot of thought to romance and what it should be. This will frighten away most potential mates, but that's okay, because you're very choosy with your affections anyway. You'd absolutely refuse to date someone dumber than you, for instance.

Your exact opposite:
Genghis Khunt


Random Brutal Sex Master
Lovers who share your idealized perspective, or who are at least willing to totally throw themselves into a relationship, will be very, very happy with you. And you with them. You're already selfless and compassionate, and with the right partner, there's no doubt you can be sensual, even adventurously so.

You probably have lots of female friends, and they have a special soft spot for you. Babies do, too, at the tippy-top of their baby skulls.


ALWAYS AVOID: The 5-Night Stand, The False Messiah, The Hornivore, The Last Man on Earth

CONSIDER: The Loverboy

~~Something To Read About~~

CLOSING CYCLES by: Paolo Coelho

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through.

Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents' house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden?

You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won't take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that.

But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or
rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming
back.

Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away. That is why it is so important (however painful it maybe!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place.

Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not
expect anything in return; do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, and decisions that are always put off waiting for the ideal moment. Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person. Nothing is irreplaceable. A habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life. Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, and shake off the dust. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are. Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.

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Sunday, February 11, 2007

~~Steps To Take To Avoid Getting Hurt In A Relationship~~

The biggest fear when it comes to a relationship is whether or not a certain person will leave you hurt, heart broken or otherwise affected. What I've found though is that many people open themselves up for potential hurt by not following a few common sense rules. It seems that the desire to be around someone who is interested in you, even if you are "settling" by being with him or her is worth the risk. If you find yourself in, or afraid of these types of situations, keep in mind the following tips. They just might help you avoid a future hurt.

*Find Out Where You Stand
The unknown is a powerful force. It can drive you crazy, make you doubt yourself and potentially destroy a relationship. Don't let this happen to you! Make sure you know where you stand in your relationship. In the same respect, make sure you continually let your partner know where they stand as well. You'll both be happier, and you'll have an easier time of communicating to each other.

*Don't Play Mind Games
The person you are involved with, or about to be involved with, is another being -- just like you. Playing mind games is just another way to increase your chances of getting hurt in the end. Personally, I feel that if you are willing to play mind games with a person, then you don't respect that individual enough for a relationship anyway. So do that person a favor and let him or her go.

*Don't Sleep with Someone You Don’t Know Very Well
This may seem obvious, but for many people it is not. I've heard countless requests for advice which involve a person not sure where they stand with a certain person, yet they've been involved intimately with them. Now they are faced with a potential loveless affair, are completely unhappy, and are being driven by the fear of the unknown. No matter what the urge is, if you are interested in someone for more than just a fling, don't do it until, at the very least, you are clear about the other person's feelings for you. You can avoid many future downfalls by following this tip!

*Be Honest With Each Other
Your honesty, or lack thereof, can either build or destroy your relationship. Be honest with your partner about everything,and expect the same from your partner.Too many times, I see people who have let their partner lie to them about everything, cheat on them, and worse -- yet, they continue to be with them all "in the name of love." That type of love is no love at all. It is clinging to the fact that being with someone, even though they are hurting you, is better than being alone. It is fine, and perfectly reasonable to have strong feelings or affection towards someone, but it is altogether something else when you allow yourself to stay in a relationship that has a negative effect on you.

*Don't Settle
If you know that a person isn't right for you -- go find someone who is. Don't wait to see if the relationship could turn into something better. You'll only find yourself a few years down the line in the same, or in an even worse, situation than you are in now. If you find yourself nit-picking about too many of your partner's traits early in your relationship, think forward to how much these "traits" will bother you after a few years.
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A relationship is 50% your responsibility, and 50% your partner's. Sometimes those numbers change depending on the situation. If you find things going down the wrong path, speak up and do something about it. Don't let it slide, thinking that things will get better. Proclaimed ignorance is not an excuse.This is YOUR life, don't be afraid to do things that will make it better.

~~Depression~~

Depression is very common and affects as many as one in eight people in their teen years. Depression affects people of every color, race, economic status, or age; however, it does seem to affect more females than males during adolescence and adulthood.

Why Do People Get Depressed?
There is no single cause for depression. Many factors play a role including genetics, environment, medical conditions, life events, and certain thinking patterns that affect a person's reaction to events.
Research has revealed that depression runs in families and suggests that some people inherit genes that make it more likely for them to get depressed. But not everyone who has the genetic makeup for depression actually gets depression. And many people who have no family history of depression have the condition. So, although genes are one factor, they aren't the single cause of depression.
Life events - for example, the death of a close family member or friend - can go beyond normal grief and can sometimes lead to depression.
Family and social environment also play a role. For some teens, a negative, stressful, or unhappy family atmosphere can affect their self-esteem and lead to depression.

Types of Depression
For some people, depression can be intense and occur in bouts that last for weeks at a time. For others, depression can be less severe but can linger at a low level for years.
Doctors who treat depression distinguish between these two forms, diagnosing the more severe, short-lasting form as major depression, and the longer-lasting but less severe form as dysthymia.
A third form of depression that may be diagnosed is called adjustment disorder with depressed mood. It refers to a depressive reaction to a specific life event (such as a death, divorce, or other loss) when the adjustment to the loss takes longer than the normally expected time frame or is more severe than expected and interferes with the person's daily activities.
Bipolar disorder (also sometimes called manic depressive illness) is another depressive condition that involves periods of major depression mixed with periods of mania. Mania is the term for abnormally high mood and extreme bursts of unusual activity or energy.

Yes, I’ve been to the doctor and I’m depressed…

~~Bitterness or Girl Power!?~~

Watch the video and Pay attention to the lyrics…

What do you think of the song?

Bitterness is an emotion which encompasses feelings of anger and hatred. It is often a feeling of resentment directed towards others for reasons of neglect, jealousy, or trauma.

Bitterness is loss frozen in resentment. Bitterness grows out of our refusal to let go when someone or something is taken from us.

Perhaps it grows from the literal loss of a loved one or of a job, or income, or relationship. Sometimes it might be more subtle and grow from the loss of a reputation, or social position in a group, or control. Whatever the cause, bitterness grows out of unreleased loss.

Whenever we lose something or someone significant we often feel the following thoughts and emotions over a period of time as we grieve over that loss:

• There is often denial. 'This can't be happening to me. I will wake up and it will go away!'
• There may be shock and numbness.
• There is often guilt. 'I did something wrong. I'm being punished. This is my fault!'
• Perhaps there is depression, especially when a death or loss of career is involved. 'This is so awful. Life is now meaningless. I can't cope!'
• There is almost certainly anger. 'My world is changing. How dare anybody come and change my world? Why should it happen to me?'
• There is almost certainly bargaining. 'If only I hadn't said that … made that journey … If only he/she hadn't moved got promoted … moved away … bought that … This loss would not have happened. If I could change the circumstances I could lessen the loss. I could have prevented it!'

The final stage of grieving is to be able to let go.

The phrase "Girl Power," as a term of empowerment, expressed a cultural phenomenon of the mid-late 1990s to the early 2000s and is also linked to third-wave feminism.

There is great debate as to both the origins and meaning of the phrase "Girl Power." While "Grrrl Power" was a term frequently associated with the Riot Grrrl movement during the early 1990s (it is written on the cover of Bikini Kill fanzine #2, which helped start the riot grrl movement), this term was also associated with the Plumstead pop-punk duo Shampoo. They released both an album and single titled Girl Power in early 1995 (despite the fact that they were quoted—tongue planted firmly in cheek—as saying, ""Girl Power is a load of rubbish, who the hell thought that one up anyway?"^[1]

However, it was Welsh indie band Helen Love who first recorded the words, on their debut single Formula One Racing Girls, released on the Damaged Goods label in 1993.^[2] The song itself is a nod to Riot Grrrl and embraces the concept of Girl Power and Female Emancipation:

I bought these jeans to make you love me

I cut a hole so your hand would fit

Now I don't care about you

So I'm going to sew up all the rips

Girl power.

I bought these boots to make you happy

I strapped them up to turn you on

now I don't care about you

I've got my Huggy Bear t-shirt on

I'm not going to dress up for you

I'm not going to pay your rent

outside the sun is shining

I'm hanging out with my girlfriends

Girl power.

In 2001, the Oxford English Dictionary added the term Girl Power!, defining this phrase as "a self-reliant attitude among girls and young women manifested in ambition, assertiveness and individualism."^[3]

The OED also gives an example of this term by quoting from "Angel Delight", an article in the March 24, 2001 issue of Dreamwatch about the television series Dark Angel:

After the Sarah Connors and Ellen Ripleys of the eighties, the nineties weren't so kind to the superwoman format—Xena Warrior Princess excepted. But it's a new millennium now, and while Charlie's Angels and Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon are kicking up a storm on movie screens, it's been down to James Cameron to bring empowered female warriors back to television screens. And tellingly, Cameron has done it by mixing the sober feminism of his Terminator and Aliens characters with the sexed-up Girl Power of a Britney Spears concert. The result is Dark Angel.

Going back to the song, I actually caught myself arguing about it with some friends(male and female). Some say its bitterness and some would say its just a girl thing called “Girl power”.

Is it Bitterness or Girl Power!?

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~~Theme Song~~

What caught my attention last night was a scene in the cartoon Family Guy. Family Guy is an American animated television series about a nuclear family in the suburb of Quahog (IPA [kowhɔg] or [kowhɒg]), Rhode Island. It was created by Seth MacFarlane for FOX in 1999.

Family Guy's humor is famous, or even sometimes infamous, for its use of non sequiturs, usually in the form of flashbacks. The show was cancelled once in 2000 and again in 2002, but strong DVD sales and the large viewership of reruns on Cartoon Network's Adult Swim convinced FOX to resume the show in 2005. It is the first canceled show to be resurrected based on DVD sales.

Watch this...

What's Your theme song?

~~Do you have a DIRTY MIND?~~

Take a look at the first picture first… So what did you see?

Now proceed and read below to find an explanation of what you really saw.

I’m sure you will find this very interesting..

Research has shown that young children cannot identify the intimate couple because they do not have prior memory associated with such scenario. What they will see are the nine dolphins.

Additional note: This is a test to determine if you already have a corrupted mind. If it’s hard for you to find the dolphins within 3 seconds, your mind is indeed corrupted.