words for me: Feb 21, 2007

Earlier my friend and I were talking about an apparent love quarrel between her and the hubby. Well twas a simple issue that lead to complications when we started talking about it… it brought about things from the past and future… must have… should have… could have and what ifs!?... With all that… one question was raised as to “when is the right time to get married?”… Is it at a certain age like 24 or 28? Or when the right person comes? Like how can we know and tell that we are with the right person and that it’s the right time? Not that we are desperate and all… well I’ve done some research and according to an article I’ve read:

There isn't really an actual age that’s best to get married at. Everyone and every relationship are different and special.

But, maybe this can help you finalize your decision.

Steps

Make sure he/she is the one. You should know that through the worst, your mate will be there for you, and that you can grow together. If there is a lack of trust, reconsider
Think about school, and if you’re getting married will affect your education. It may be a smarter decision to finish school first. The truth is, as a new family you will need money in order to survive. Education is the tool to achieve that money and healthy lifestyle
Think about where you will go, or where your mate will go if you get married. Are you ready to move in with him or her?
Do a cost-benefit analysis of the situation. Will waiting to get married be more financially savvy? Will getting married now help taxes?
Make it a point to discuss financial issues with your partner. It is important for a sold union to know what to expect from the other.
How do you feel about your partner's family? Will they be very involved in your joint lives? How does your family feel about your partner? Consider how much you value the opinions of your family and assess the situation.
Can you talk to your partner about private issues easily? If not, then you might not be at the right stage in your life and/or your relationship.

Tips

People often make the mistake of marrying at a young age, before they get through college and organize their money plans.
Be sure to look at every angle of the situation before you decide. This is a life changing decision; it is important that you and your partner have similar and hopefully joint goals for the future.
Think about what you want for yourself in the future and if your mate genuinely shares that with you.
Pre-marital counseling is a really good idea.
Remember: Marriage is not 'a walk in the park.' It takes serious work and effort from both partners. The honeymoon does not last forever!